Young women who make the decision to come out to their loved ones have taken a big step. It takes a lot of courage to tell someone about your sexual identity. There are a number of things loved ones can do to provide support as a young woman discovers her homosexuality. Knowing what steps to take can ensure a smooth transition between lesbian teens and the family.
It is important for parents to be supportive of and engaged with their child when she comes out. Ask questions and be prepared to listen to how she is feeling. It may be helpful to get information on sexual orientation and the correct language and terms to use. You want to be able to communicate effectively with your child about what she is experiencing.
In that vein, learn what resources are available to you and your teenager. Find out if there is a Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual or Transgender (LGBT) community group or a Gay/Straight Alliance at your child’s school. Both groups can provide support for both your teenager and family members. These are also groups through which you can meet other parents of homosexual children who may be dealing with the same issues or situations as you are.
Lastly, talk with your child before you share her sexual identity with others. Coming out is a very sensitive process, and your teenager may feel uncomfortable with some people knowing before she is ready to tell them.
It’s important that the lines of communication are always open between lesbian teens and the family. Exploring potential issues and finding support for everyone involved will help the young woman as she comes out to friends and family.